How to choose bridesmaid dresses for a late summer, early fall wedding day

It's a fabulous time of year to get married ...

  • You get the sunshine
  • You get beautiful colors on the trees
  • You get everybody back from their holidays
  • You get long, light evenings ... 

September and October weddings fall into the "in-between" category: the end of sweet summertime and the beginning of our creep into winter (eek!). So, what would be the best bridesmaid dress choices for this time of year -  late summer and early fall? We'll help you make the right choices. 


There are four main factors that contribute to the bridesmaids' overall look.

  • Fabric
  • Cut 
  • Color
  • Accessories 

 

Let's talk fabrics 


Early-fall and late-summer weddings can be tricky when it comes to fabric selection. Depending on the climate, it's best to steer clear of satin and charmeuse in light shades - they can show perspiration - and dark shades of dupioni, as it can appear too heavy for a fair weather affair.

How about the cut?


Pick a silhouette (or silhouettes) with a bit more coverage - think one-shoulder, cap-sleeve or a sleeveless v-neck

Colors


For weddings that fall between the seasons it's best to not trend too far in one direction... Nothing too summery or too wintery. Navy, gold, purple, blue, green and silver are great options!

Accessories and styling 

 

Keep bridesmaid accessories clean and minimal. If you've chosen a strapless silhouette, consider getting your bridesmaid coordinating or matching shawls.

And remember the other golden rules

 

  • Your bridesmaids dresses don't have to match in style - let each girl pick a gown that flatters them
  • Necklines can be different, again to make the best of every girl's features
  • However, it's best to keep lengths the same, whether you choose long or short
  • You don't have to have one color. Choose contrasting colors (in this case autumn shades might be stunning) or a blend of neutrals (like soft blues, blush, greys ...)

Photo credits: All bridesmaid dresses shown above available from Dessy. Thanks to @AmyFanton, @wearethemitchells 

How will YOU show your wedding guests to their tables? You're going to LOVE these ideas - and so will they

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It wasn't so long ago that weddings followed a cookie cutter template.

  • You got married in a cream, ivory or white dress that was long, with a veil.
  • You wore shoes to match.
  • Your bridesmaids wore matching dresses.
  • All the bouquets matched (although the bride's would be a bit different).
  • Invitations were always black and white script on card.
  • The wedding cake was always three tier (or more). 

And so on ...

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But thank goodness those days are gone and couples getting married now can express their personalities, rather than following a formula. 

It's got nothing to do with budget either. If you're prepared to spend a bit of time and effort finding good ideas on wedding websites and Pinterest, you'll find plenty of inspiration and there's masses of wedding stuff you can do yourself.

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So what's this got to do with your guests and seating plan? 

Well, what we're saying is that you can also have a bit of fun with this most important part of your reception and make it real personal. 

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You could just hand it over to your caterers and have a standard board at the entrance to the reception ... but you might want to dress things up a little. 

  • Instead of calling tables 1, 2 and 3 - think of some creatively themed table names. They could be the names of your favorite authors, athletes, artists, makes of car or places. So if you and your other partner have done a lot of travelling, the tables could be named after places you've visited: France, Italy, Greece, Bahamas ... you get the idea.
  • You could call them after your favorite Disney characters or favorite films ... 

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Here's a few ideas we've found on Pinterest to inspire you: 

  • Find some old keys in a yard store or flea market and handwrite the table number and guest name
  • Find an old mirror and write up your seating plan in silver or gold pen (or ask a friend who's studied calligraphy to do it)
  • Get old photographs of your friends and put them alongside the table numbers. That will make everyone laugh when they see the board, that's for sure. Maybe some photos from your High School Yearbook? 
  • Get some empty wine bottles, print up sticky labels with the guest names and paste them on the bottles. Fill with flowers. Voila and an instant table centerpiece too .. 

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How to style your wedding day with accent colors

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Interior designers have known for a while now that the way to make a space special is by using carefully chosen accent colors.

You can have a neutral background - then mix and match with standout shades to add a depth of interest.

And you know something?  You can use exactly the same trick to personalise and style up your wedding day. 

Today's brides often give a nod to the past whilst incorporating elements of contemporary styling into their big day to give things an on-trend twist. 

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Here are some ideas for using color accents on your big day

  • Use the same accent color throughout - say this year's Pantone Ultra Violet - for the groomsmen's vests and cravats, your shoes, the bridesmaids' dresses, your table settings, your flowers - but keep everything else white or cream.
  • Have a brightly colored vehicle to take you to the reception from your ceremony.
  • Have an all-white reception (if you're a bit of a traditionalist)  - linen, napkins, chairs ... but use your flowers to give pops of color.
  • Maybe a colorful tiara?
  • Put your bridesmaids in white but give them brightly colored, dazzling bouquets - and they don't all have to be the same shades either. Mix blues, reds, oranges and yellows in different posies.
  • Wear jewel-coloured wedding shoes with a traditional white wedding dress.
  • Or if you don't want to stick to one accent colour, think about ombre effects - where you use a graduated version of the same colour. Maybe from the most delicate lilac shade down to a deep purple. You can do the same with pinks, reds, oranges and greens

 

Top tip

Remember that if you introduce accent colors to a largely white wedding, you'll end up with better photographs and videos as it gives the photographer something to focus on. 

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10 things a wedding guest should NEVER say at a wedding

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Now Meghan Markle is a naturally classy lady. She's well-groomed, well-put together, polite and charming. 

But even Prince Harry's bride-to-be had to have some special lessons before she joined the British Royal family. There's a whole lot of stuff to learn when you're a Duchess. Things like when to curtsey to Queen Elizabeth, what color manicure is acceptable (it's neutral by the way), what not to eat and when not to eat ... and so on. 

However, if you're a wedding guest then there are also some social skills you need to make sure you have. Because there are some things that absolutely must not be said at a wedding - or done. 

Some people naturally have flawless manners. Others don't really have much etiquette at all and make faux pas constantly, embarassing those around them.

But when it comes down to weddings, it is important that everyone has etiquette - even if it is forced. However, regardless of how important this is, some people still tend to mess up and not say the right things when they should...or they say all the wrong things when they shouldn't.

 

Here's our list of the top 10 things you should never say to the bride, groom, or their families

  1.  "I can't believe she finally is settling down! She's so wild. I never thought she would. Really, when you think of the time she...!" (And so on. Leave the bride's past in the past.)
  2. "You can't even tell she's pregnant!" (This may be a secret or the bride may want to keep her elderly relatives out of the loop. In any case, it's not your place to announce it.
  3. "Remember that time he/she was sooooo drunk......?" (Again, leave the past in the past.)
  4. "Oh...I thought you were going to go with the OTHER dress..." (This is almost guaranteed to make the bride feel a bit insecure and maybe not her best. NOT what you want her to be feeling. She's made her decision and your unhelpful comments are just that.)
  5. Well, he finally cleaned up nice...." (Tactless in the extreme.)
  6. "I came for the alcohol." (Not a classy comment for a guest to make.)
  7. "I'm scared to see them as parents..." (This doesn't make you sound like a kind person and doesn't show you in your best light.)
  8. "Good thing that first marriage didn't work out..." (Just unnecessary.)
  9. "Glad he finally grew up..." (Haven't you ever done things in your youth you regretted later? Cut him some slack.)
  10. "Why is she wearing a white dress again?" (You know something, it's really none of your business. It's HER choice.) 

To See or Not to See The Groom..Before You Say 'I Do'

Maybe you've never spent a night away from one another ever. Maybe you can't bear to be parted. 

Well, tradition dictates that the bride doesn't see her intended on the wedding day until she arrives for the ceremony and walks down the aisle towards him. (Which certainly ramps up the anticipation, excitement and atmosphere). 

In fact, it's considered bad luck to see your partner before the wedding, something that many couples just don't want to risk. 

Other reasons not to meet

There are other good reasons for not seeing your intended beforehand. 

It takes away that moment when the groom sees his bride for the first time walking down the aisle, when he looks back and sees HER! (Remember Prince Harry's face when he saw Meghan Markle walking towards him). 

And of course that particular moment is also a fantastic photo opportunity. 

And reasons why you might want to

  • Photographers sometimes prefer fresh pre-ceremony photos of the bride and groom (and getting these out of the way means you have more time to spend enjoying your reception)
  • It will give you some quiet time together beforehand.
  • You'll be more relaxed when you meet in front of the priest/celebrant

 Why is there this tradition? 

No one really knows. Some say it goes back to the days when arranged marriages between families were the way marriages happened. Seeing each other before the wedding day could cause the groom (not the bride of course) to change his mind, (we've come a long way since then).

The veil also plays a part in this tradition. The veil prevented the groom from seeing the bride and at (gasp!) the last minute calling the whole thing off.

Poor bride.

Fast forward to modern times. This is really a decision that should be made by the bride and groom themselves.  If you are both the superstitious and traditional types, then adhere to it. If you are a couple that doesn't care either way, then by all means see each other before you say 'I Do.'

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The most important thing you should know about filming your wedding day

 

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 Did you know that not having the wedding filmed is top of a bride's regrets about her big day. So it's probably not something to save money on - after all, you want your grandkids to see how fabulous you both were as a young couple!  

 

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How To Avoid A Wedding Day Video Disaster

  • If you can afford it, have your wedding filmed. Being able to see your ceremony, your first kiss and dance as a married couple are magical moments. And you only get one chance!
  • Don't ask a relative or guest to shoot your video. They are guests and want to be busy enjoying themselves, rather than on duty capturing your big day. And they might miss those crucial moments!
  • Know what style of wedding video you want - standard,  static or fly on the wall documentary.
  • Think about the elements of the wedding you want recorded; Bride getting ready; Groom getting ready; guests arriving; bridal party and bride arriving to the ceremony; the ceremony; drinks reception; newly weds entrance to reception; dinner and speeches; cutting the cake; first dance; party with guest dancing.
  • Meet and discuss ideas with your videographer well in advance. Make sure they are sensitive and respectful of your needs.
  • Good videographers are booked a long way ahead, so try to secure your choice as soon as possible.
  • Make sure you know exactly what your video package includes,so that you avoid any hefty add-ons later.
  • Prices will depend on the equipment the videographer uses and the number of crew coming along.
  • Ask to see previous examples of the videographer's work and get recommendations from previous clients.
  • Remember, you ultimately get what you pay for. So if something is cheap, then it probably will look it

Did you have a wedding video made of your big day? Which were your favourite shots and which do you think you could have done without? If you've any great wedding videos tips, please share them with us below by leaving a comment.

Which would be the best wedding colors to choose for YOUR big day?

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Blush pink? A soft blue? Florals? Neutrals?

Really, there's no one size fits all when it comes to deciding on the colors that should inspire your your big day. A lot will depend on the time of year you're getting married, the venue, the mood you want the day to have ... However, there are a few ground rules to consider when you're planning your wedding day colors so here's some food for thought. And if you need real inspiration, just look at the colors of nature for the season in which you're marrying and that will give you plenty to think about.

 

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Marrying somewhere hot?

If you're having a destination wedding on a sandy beach somewhere or a place where the sky is going to be blue, blue, blue then we'd suggest that you go for the brightest of bright shades for your bridesmaids dresses, your accessories and your flowers. Hot pinks, turquoises, emerald greens, scarlets, bright sunshiny yellows all look fabulous - if the light is bright anything pale or pastel is going to look a bit washed out. Think of the tropical colors that are going to surround you and use them as your color palette.

 

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A country garden wedding day

If you're having a rustic wedding in a beautiful country garden, then we'd suggest you go for pale pinks, blues, yellows, greens, whites and creams. This is one day when tropical brights will look out of place. Think about a classic herbaceous border filled with summer flowers like roses, delphiniums, lavender, peonies, and daisies and you'll get the look right. You could also consider a mocha wedding theme which would look very pretty and sophisticated.

A city slicker wedding

A monochrome wedding looks fabulous in a city and if you want to extend the theme really far, just ask your guests to dress in black and white. You can add an accent of colour by wearing red wedding shoes. 

A wedding by the sea

This is where we would go for a navy and white theme, or maybe stone and white.

And if you're marrying in winter?

Winter weddings demand rich tones. We're thinking plums, forest greens, ruby reds, maybe a deep blue and of course a bright hollyberry red. Again, think about the wedding flowers that are likely to be in season and use them to denote your color scheme.

You might also find the Dessy Pantone tools invaluable when it comes to deciding on your colors and shades.

All bridesmaid dresses featured by Dessy. 

 

Just following these simple health and fitness tips will make a BIG difference to your wedding day look

Your wedding day is one day when all eyes are going to be on you. And you'll also have a lot of photographs taken to remind you of how you looked then.

As a result, most brides embark on a strict diet/fitness regime in the run-up to the big event. But what's the best way to go about this?

 

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Even if you just follow the simple advice below, you'll be making improvements to your overall health and fitness, setting up better habits for a lifetime. 

    • Start your fitness and health campaign six months before your wedding day. Really this shouldn't be a campaign you'll drop after the marriage - you need to implement many of these changes for the rest of your life so that it's a healthy one.
    • Carbs aren't the enemy. It's poor quality carbs you should be avoiding - white bread, biscuits, fries, sugar, white rice, cakes. Decide to stick to healthy carbs - brown rice, wholemeal freshly made pasta, sweet potatoes. If you're trying to lose weight, don't eat carbs after 6pm and never after 10pm. You need some carbs first thing in the morning to kick start your metabolism and give you energy.
    • Avoid alcohol in the run up to your wedding day. You need to give your liver a chance to reset itself which takes about a month. Also alcohol contains many toxins which are fat soluble - with the result that these toxins mix with existing fat which then becomes difficult to lose as the body doesn't want to expose itself to the toxins that are stored within it, hence 'stubborn' fat around the tummy!
    • Keeping away from the alcohol will help you to lose weight faster and has many health benefits.
    • Drink water rather than juice (which contains 25% sugars)
    • If you're not used to exercising, start off with some light movements. Don't overdo it straight away. Slow and steady wins the race here - build up your activity and your stamina.
  • Aim to lose a maximum of 2lbs a week and a minimum of 1lb a week.
  • Pilates is great for building up your strength and re-engaging out-of-condition muscles.
  • Small things will make a difference. Walking upstairs instead of taking the lift. Walking to work if you can or at least some of the way. Cutting out candy, cakes, cookies, milky drinks. Increasing the amount of exercise you do and eating more healthily. This is a good rule for life in any case, so try to set in place some good habits that you'll keep up for the rest of your life.
  • It's important that you find exercise you enjoy or you won't stick to it. Okay, go to a spinning class three times a week. It's great exercise but if you don't enjoy it, you won't stick to it long term. Far better to find something you love doing that you'll want to keep at - that's why I think classes and clubs are good. Maybe you want to take up cycling. Take up ballroom dancing "Dancing with the Stars" style.
  • Exercise classes are great because they're structured and disciplined. The gym is good for focusing on certain areas but remember that after 4-6 weeks of doing the same training in the gym your body stops adapting to exercise so your results will stall.
  • Don't smoke. If you smoke you undo most of the good effects of your exercising and put masses of toxins in your body. You'll be setting yourself up for long term health problems besides prematurely ageing your skin, risking eye problems, teeth staining, bad breath - need I go on?

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What's Your Floral Wedding Style?

 

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Trends in weddings come and go but flowers will always have their place with a bride. 

Here are some of the floral wedding trends that are having a bit of moment. Scroll through and see which of these ideas appeals to you.

 

Greenery. If you're on a bit of a budget then this is the way to go. Greenery-inspired wedding decorations are everywhere and they look fabulous. Think long swatches of green branches and trailing leaves - comes in less expensive than flowers (and also wilts less in hot weather).  

One of the keynotes at the Royal Wedding in May were the beautiful floral arches at St George's Chapel Windsor. White roses and greenery welcomed the bride as she walked over the threshold and it's said that white roses were one of Princess Diana's favourite flowers. 

 

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Floral arches look set to become even more popular as a result. They certainly provide the wow factor at a wedding venue and make the perfect backdrop for wedding photography. 

  

Don't forget the fourth wall. Ceilings are being celebrated and decorated as never before. Think of the space as like an extra canvas at your wedding. Adorn your marquee up above with strings of flowers or have a chandelier with flowers dipping down over your guest tables.  

 

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Wedding bouquets are getting smaller. Meghan had a handtied bouquet at her wedding that was minimal and discreet. If you want to to add an extra accent, ask your florist to tie it with a trailing ribbon. 

Living walls. Consider having a 'living wall' at your reception created entirely from flowers. It would look spectacular behind the bride and groom table. Or maybe at the entrance to your reception for photo opportunities. Or as a backdrop to your wedding cake table. Or a bar? Or a chill-out area. 

 

 

 

 

10 Beauty Tips To Put In Place WAY Before Your Wedding Day

It's all about being prepared and not doing stuff last minute. The moment you get engaged (or even beforehand), get some of the below in place.

  • Get your smile looking its best ever. That means going to the dentist for a check-up and a session with the hygienist to get your teeth looking really clean and bright. If your wedding is a way off and you've never been happy with your smile then you might consider visiting an orthodontist to get things straightened out - Invisalign is the modern way of wearing braces and very unobtrusive.
  • How's your hair looking? On your wedding day you'll want it to be looking glossy and healthy. So chat to your hairdresser in the months before about how you can get it into the best possible condition. That might mean some serious deep conditioning treatments, laying off the hair straighteners, rethinking extensions and of course, keeping it regularly trimmed. If you fancy a different style, this is the time to do it. Not a week before your wedding!
  • You might not think it's part of your beauty routine but how you sit and stand is very much a part of your look. So think about how you walk and what your deportment is like. This might be the time to join that Pilates class so you can really learn how to work your core muscles and have fabulous posture. Or maybe work up that yoga practice.
  • If you're somebody who likes to soak up the sun, don't fall into the trap of getting strap marks that are going to show on your strapless wedding dress. If you do want to have a bit of a glow before your wedding day then think about how your dress is cut so that your tan is even - not stripy. This sounds like such basic advice, but you'd be amazed at how many girls forget about this (and it applies to your bridesmaids too!)
  • Many brides-to-be go on an extreme diet and fitness campaign before their wedding days. There are a few drawbacks to this  - but in any case, anything extreme is not going to last. You're really looking at rethinking how you eat and exercise in the long term. It's a habit for a lifestyle rather than just the months before your wedding so consider how you can make some healthy changes that you're likely to be able to stick to.
  • What are your nails like? If you like the natural look and you're a stranger to the nail bar, then pay a visit. Try and go regularly in the build-up to your big day. You don't have to have acrylics, gels or long talons if you don't want to. A regular, standard manicure on a regular basis will get your nails looking their very best - with well shaped cuticles and stronger, even tips.
  • Your feet also play a big part on your wedding day. If you're wearing open-toed shoes, then a pedicure is an absolute must (same applies if you're having a beach wedding). And on your honeymoon you're going to want pretty-looking feet so treat yourself in the weeks before your wedding - and a proper reflexology foot massage is a wonderful relaxant. Oh, and if you're wearing heels, make sure you wear them in on the carpet at home before you walk down the aisle so that they're comfortable and you're used to them.
  • Your skin. It's a real no no to have a facial in the week before your wedding day - which is precisely the wrong time because any toxins will be released with the result that you might have a blemish you really don't want when you're being photographed more than ever. On the other hand, you may want to get into a good skincare routine so ask around your friends, visit some beauty salons to see what's on offer and some skincare counters in your local department store to chat things through.
  • Sleep. Sleep. Sleep. Try and get as much rest as you can and get into a bedtime routine of reading before you go to bed - by which I mean a proper book and not something with a screen (which has been shown to interfere with sleep patterns).
  • Exercise. If you haven't got into the 10,000 steps a day routine, then this is a good time to start.